Ever find yourself constantly interrupting or being interrupted in meetings? This episode explores the reasons why we interrupt, the difference between supportive and disruptive interruptions, and offers practical strategies to help you speak up effectively without cutting others off.
Interrupting others in meetings is a common issue, and the reasons behind it are varied and complex. One of the most common reasons is simply a desire to be heard and contribute. People may worry they'll forget their ideas or lose the opportunity to speak in a fast-paced conversation. Another factor is the difference between internal and external thinkers. External thinkers, for example, process their thoughts by speaking them aloud, making them more likely to interrupt. Other reasons include impatience, a desire to move the conversation forward, and strong emotions or passion about a topic. Niamh shares a personal story of interrupting more after returning from maternity leave because she felt forgotten and needed to be seen at work. Finally, some people interrupt to assert dominance or control a conversation.
Not all interruptions are the same, and they don't all have the same impact. Supportive interruptions are often well-intentioned and aim to clarify a point or build on the speaker's idea. They can happen during a brief pause in a conversation and are driven by excitement or passion. On the other hand, disruptive interruptions show a disregard for the speaker and are often used to change the topic, take control of the conversation, or make oneself the focus. These can cause the speaker to lose their train of thought, feel unheard, and lead to resentment. Niamh recommends paying attention to the type of interruption you or others are making to better understand the root cause.
Internal thinkers prefer quiet, reflective thought before sharing ideas.
External thinkers process ideas by speaking them aloud.
Interrupting can make people feel their ideas are not valued.
Supportive interruptions aim to clarify or build on a point.
Disruptive interruptions are used to change the topic or assert control.
Understand Your Thinking Style: Knowing if you're an internal or external thinker can explain why you feel the need to speak up frequently in meetings.
Use a Notebook: To avoid interrupting, try keeping a notebook with you during meetings to jot down your thoughts and ideas as they come to you.
Listen to Understand: Focus on actively listening to what is being said, rather than preparing your response while others are speaking.
Count to Five: Create a small mental barrier for yourself by counting to five before speaking to give yourself a moment to consider if your interruption is necessary.
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